Wondering About God

ANOTHER WEDDING DAY

2011-12-20T23:42:00.000-05:00

As I have been working organizing my home office, I found this oldie but goodie.This is a picture of my aunt and uncle - my father's younger sister. Over the years, my dad hardly spoke about his family. In fact, other than this particular sister, who lived in Florida, the rest of his family never left India- therefore I have never met any of them. In just a few weeks, I will be in Calcutta, meeting my dad's siblings for the first time (since I was one years of age). I am excited to see them all, since this photo is all I really know of them. That's my dad on the far right.

WEDDING DAY

2011-12-20T23:11:00.001-05:00

I found this wallet photo as I was cleaning out my home office. It is a picture of our wedding day, November 26. We look so young - because we were. What a stressful day. I really didn't know how to relax and appreciate the day. 11 years later, I am still in love with this wonderful lady.

MANLY MAN

2011-12-16T12:26:00.001-05:00

I must admit that I have really been surprised by the things I am doing with my hands.

The heater in my van stopped working about two months ago. This didn't cause an alarm because it was autumn - and we really didn't need the heat. But about a week ago it started to get very cold, and my wife looked at me and said, "are you ever planning on fixing the heat?"

I didn't want to take the van to a mechanic and pay hundreds of dollars to fix it. I decided to look it up on the Internet to figure out what the problem was.

After diagnosing the problem I went to the auto store and picked up a part and took the risk -with the help of a friend who kind of knows his way around - we fixed the blower in the van. I saved about $500 and now have a van that is nice and toasty.

If you're impressed with that story let me tell you I'm in the middle of renovating my bathroom. I finished grouting this morning and just need to put sealant over the tiles and I will have a brand-new bathroom floor and toilet.

I guess what it takes is a little bit of self-confidence to know that you can do some things on your own. The other big thing that you need in order to do home renovations projects is the ability to have some free time- that's an entirely different blog post.

I used voice recognition software to create this blog post.

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BLACK FRIDAY HIKE

2011-11-28T22:03:00.001-05:00

On Friday, we decided to take a trip to Calvert Cliffs, on the Chesapeake Bay. It was a perfect day, 68 degrees, and nothing but time on our hands. Round trip - 4 miles. On the way back, Wilo couldn't walk anymore, and fell asleep. So I carried her the final 2 miles.

LAKE ELKHORN

2011-11-23T20:37:00.001-05:00

It was one of those rare warm 70 degree days on Sunday. We took a walk around Lake Elkhorn - about two miles. The kids were in a jolly mood - one of those days where you wish you could have more of.

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The American Dream

2011-11-16T10:28:00.001-05:00

Last night as I was teaching class, I took the elevator to the 3rd floor to grab a projector. As I exited, a little girl sat in her stroller and said hi to me. She had a giant smile. Her mom quickly turned around to see what her daughter was exclaiming about.

Her mom was pressed against the doorway, listening to the lecture, while trying to keep daughter occupied.

Here was a parent, spending over $500 per credit hour, unable to work out her childcare, at least for tonight.

The American dream is beautiful. But, for most people who seek to fulfill that dream, it can be a lob and difficult journey.

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LACES IS CHANGING LIVES

2011-11-14T19:45:00.001-05:00

One of my friends and church members, Seren Fryatt runs an amazing charitable organization called LACES. Check out how they are changing lives.

Click here to view the video.

PHOTOS TELL THE STORY

2011-10-27T18:40:00.000-05:00

I've been really impressed with Rej's dedication to running. I never would have imagined that this was the sport that she would pick up and enjoy. Last weekend, a group of her friends spent the night in a hotel and ran the Susan G. Komen race for breast cancer. My kids have an awesome role model to follow after.

About a month ago, I was in New York for some meetings. The family came along, since the kids were off school. We took a ferry into NCY and passed by the Statue of Liberty. This was my first time seeing her that close and personal. Yes, I was moved, and tearful. What a wonderful emblem to remind American's of our freedom. I thought about all of the New Yorkers who take that ferry every single day, many of whom where sitting inside, on the other side of the boat, away from the tourist. Do they still feel giddy inside when they see Ms. Liberty?

I made two presentations to the Society of Adventist Communicators in Chicago last week. The first one was called, "Media Management and Campaigns for Non-Profits" and Emerging Trends in Social Media. The lectures went well, I believe. This is one of the few organizations that send their presenters a copy of the evaluations, so I am looking forward to reading them when they get back.

While in Chicago I visited the offices of GolinHarris, a public relations firm that is known for their major accounts, and first class clients. This picture is of their "bridge room" where the keep track of what is happening in the media at all times.

Another visit that I made to while in Chicago was the offices of Christianity Today. I've been a long time reader of that magazine, and the Leadership Journal. This is an actual working office of one of their editors. They said this is the most photographed room in their building. No wonder! I was thinking, it would be sad when this guy is fired, and he has to box up all of this book. Whew!

Earlier today, I had coffee with one of my church members who is an Alcoholic. I was checking in with her and seeing how she is progressing. As we were talking, I was fiddling with her new iPhone, and checking out the apps that she has. She has a 12 Step Recovery App, which I opened to look at. This is a screen show of her app. I started laughing. Obviously I haven't she hasn't registered the app yet.

Eli is going through his 6 year old phase. Can you do this with your nose? I can't.

If you have opened up a Hall's cough drop recently, you will notice the inside wrapper has pithy notes of encouragements. If you are sick, with a cough, you probably could use some extra cheer to keep you going.

A few of ground zero from a near by hotel. Pretty amazing.

I've been thinking about getting a new computer. I've had this laptop for almost five years, and it is time to move forward. The only thing is, I am not sure laptops are the next step to move in. So I tried an experiment today. I grabbed my wireless keyboard and synced it with my iPad. It worked beautifully. I had a hour this morning before I was supposed to meet someone, so I worked on a chapter for my new book. This worked well. I am thinking this is the way to move. Out: Laptop. In Tablets.

Have you had the Hot Chocolate from Starbucks. Beautiful and Yummy.

I have two flat feet. It has never really bothered me, until now. Painful, sore, and uncomfortable. I saw a podiatrist this week. This makes me feel ollllllllllllld.

WHAT MONEY WILL BUY

2011-10-27T17:54:00.001-05:00

It's true, money will pay for almost anything.

As one corrupt and misguided church member once told me, "Everybody has a price."Last week while we were in Chicago, Rej and I had breakfast at a local mall. There was a small kiosk in the middle of the mall that offered massages.It was about a $1 per minute.Here was my chance. "Do you rub feet?"SIDEBAR: If you saw my feet, you would know why my wife refused to touch them. They are not pretty. But my feet hurt, and they need a good rubbing.Introducing the unassuming mall rub down women.She was smart, she put on latex clothes. The foot rub was awesome, and worth 20 minutes of my life.

IN SEARCH OF OPRAH

2011-10-27T17:48:00.002-05:00

Last week while I was in Chicago for some meetings I decided to make the pilgrimage to Harpo Studios. For the last 25 years, I have been a huge fan, like countless of millions of people. The only difference:I am a dude.I still remember that day, when I got home from school, turned on the television to catch a rerun on Three's Company. It was 4pm, and Jack, Janet, and Chrissy was nowhere to be found. In fact, Mr. Roper was gone too. "Who is that woman!" Get her off and put my show back on, now!It only took a couple of episodes to catch on and become an Oprah devotee.Over the years my loyalty has waned, on and off -like so many things in life.However, during her final season I was hooked. I was grown up, and married, and Oprah was an old woman.

Rej and I set the DRV everyday and watched her faithfully on the weekends. What was better than Oprah? "Oprah behind the Scenes." This show was truly amazing. If they would have had that show even ten years ago, I think Oprah's ratings would have rose. What better than to see how the show is made, and drama that surrounds it.Needless to say, the last year of Oprah reinvigorated my love for her show. It as masterful television.Finally, our DVR is now at 22% full, instead of 87%.Back to Chicago.We took a side trip to find Oprah. It was late at night, but we found her studios. There is something nostalgic about driving up to her building, and seeing it in real life. Perhaps this is what Elvis fans feel like when they go to Graceland.We took our photos of the building, signage, and sadly, of Rosie's logo.

Really, Rosie? What is Oprah thinking?I called out her name, in the dead of night:OPRAH! OPRAH!She didn't come out. She was most likely in California.

YOU ARE KILLING ME

2011-09-27T20:28:00.000-05:00

I have a theory: Yahoo! is slowly trying to get their users to jump ship.I've been using Yahoo for years. However, it seems like everybody has been moving on to big and better-GoogleExcept for me. But after all of these technical difficulties, I've been thinking...Is it time?

SAYING GOODBYE

2011-09-24T15:46:00.002-05:00

The other week my daughter had a sleep over at the Baltimore Aquarium. It was her 8th birthday present from our family friend, Lynne (aka Grandma Lynne). She was really excited and looking forward to the experience. On the other hand, I was ambivalent about having her leave for the night without an immediate family member. As she jumped into Lynne's car, and put her seat belt on she looked at me and smiled, "Bye dad!"I teared up.That was a sad day.I am still sad.

A HISTORY LESSON

2011-09-12T19:37:00.000-05:00

As the kids grow older, it has been interesting to try to teach the kids about historical events. Even though I wasn't born yet, during the civil rights movement or Dr. Kings days, it is still one generation removed for me. With my kids, they are so far removed with this history it is hard for them to really connect the way I wish they would.

FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL

2011-09-12T19:34:00.001-05:00

PICTURES TELL THE STORY

2011-09-12T19:28:00.002-05:00

BEFORE: Eddie teaches his daughter the importance of concentration.

AFTER: Korean Genius

Eddie the Dad, who would have ever guessed.

My dream car is a corvette. I know I will never own one, and to be honest, even if I had the money, I wouldn't buy one. However, during the county fair, a local car dealership had a bunch of cars out for exhibit.

The dealer gave me the keys to start the car and pump the gas. If only he let me take it for a drive.

The Howard County Fair was filled with a bunch of cool activities This year, we didn't do any rides, but only went to the farm/animal exhibits. The sun for pretty hot on that day, and luckily the Democrats had free ice cold water. I had a little fun heckling them about some of their candidates. They were visibly annoyed by me, but still graciously let me drink all the water I needed.

Wilo thought this was an interesting vegetable. It looks a little like a duck.

We tried to visit various farmers markets this summer. The kids would each get $5 to spend, and they were instructed to buy a new food to try. This was an enjoyable outing. This picture was taken at the Olney Farmers Market. Believe it or not, the Vietnamese spring rolls were delish!

ACCEPTANCE

2011-09-03T18:40:00.001-05:00

I will love and forgive everyone I meet

BLOGGING BY PHONE

2011-09-03T18:37:00.001-05:00

Have you noticed that I've been blogging more. My posts have been much shorter because I've been writing on my phone, using a blogger app.

These pithy posts have me blogging and getting to the point.

Pulling out the laptop seems so cumbersome these days.

INDIAN KOREAN CONNECTION

2011-09-03T18:33:00.001-05:00

Rej and I both have close childhood friends who are Korean. We call it the Korean-Indian connection.

We believe every Indian has a Korean pal.

This week Joo came for a visit from New York. It was fun to watch how they picked up from where they last left off.

I'm lucky because Eddie lives close by, so we get to hang out more.

If you don't have a Korean/Indian friend, you should try it- we are awesome!

FRENCH ONION SOUP

2011-09-03T18:27:00.001-05:00

Tonight Rej ordered french onion soup. When it came, Jaelin said, "what is that? It looks like Witches brew."

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THE ART OF SLOWING DOWN

2011-09-02T13:59:00.003-05:00

I received this email yesterday from a friend. At first I was bothered. Then, I realized I was jealous.

Dear Friends,

I wanted to drop you all a quick note to let you know that I am still alive and kicking. At the start of the summer, I cancelled my Facebook account and found not being constantly plugged in somewhat liberating.

Today, I took my efforts to simplify life a step further and I have cancelled my mobile phone. No more texting, nor reading e-mails or twitter updates on the go. I am, as Tony Stampley sang, an “American Offline”. So, the best way to reach me will be at home (xxx) xxx-xxxx or at work (xxx) xxx-xxxx. If I am not there... leave a message... and I will get back to you... or better yet... stop by for a visit and sit a spell. I will brew a pot of coffee or pour a class of sweet tea... and we will do our catching up.

I am jealous because he is slowing down. Because he is able to slow down.

No, wait a minute. I know what he does for a living. He is as busy as I am.

He is intentionally slowing down.

I usually give people a hard time for not being engaged in social media. I can get easily irritated when people answer their cell phones.

We, um, err, I live in a society where you expect everybody to be accessible at all times.

The often quoted phrase, "stop and smell the roses," is just that, an often quoted phrase. Most of us are driven to live a fast paced life - making ourselves accessible to everyone, because the narcissism that lives among us where believe people need us, and rely on us.

Last night I had two meetings that I missed, because of the terrible traffic delays in Baltimore (due to the Grand Prix this weekend). I was feeling bad about my lack of commitment and was being hard on myself. And yet, both meetings went on, without me, or my leadership - just fine.

So here is to slowing down...

NATIONAL MONUMENT

2011-08-28T18:25:00.001-05:00

As I was driving through the city today, I couldn't help to stop and take this photo. I never tire of these beautiful sites.

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LIFE SAVING

2011-08-24T22:25:00.003-05:00

Earlier this summer we spent a day at Daytona Beach, Florida. As a kid, living in Florida, I have memories going to that beach on many occasions.

If you haven't been there, it has a long stretch of sand that you can drive your car on, and park right along the ocean.

While I was jumping waves with my kids, I heard crying. I looked over my left shoulder and saw a little boy, about 8 years old, hands against his face, collapsed on the sand crying.

"My brother, my brother," he gasped for air. "He is dying!"

Where is he? I asked hesitantly.

"He is dying." I have never seen a child look so upset.

He was agonizing.

He pointed his small finger toward the ocean.

I looked into the distance. There were two teenagers, swimming toward my direction. They were attempting to carry/pull a child, while managing to stay afloat.

I immediately jumped into the warm ocean water, waist deep to meet the teens.

They were out of breath - exhausted.

I took the child from their arms, and carried him safely to the sand.

He was breathing, although very shaken by the traumatic experience.

Just then, the beach lifeguards arrived on their motorized vehicle. They laid boy down to check his vital.

His brother, who had been crying on the beach, ran towards him, wrapped his arms around his sibling and began to weep with overjoyed elation.

Neither boy was older than 10 years old.

"Where's your parents?"

"I don't know? We can't find them."

Both boys were put on the motorized vehicle and driven around the beach in search of their parents.

This gave me pause.

PIANO LESSONS

2011-08-18T15:39:00.005-05:00

My son began piano lessons last week. His older sister has been playing for two years already. He has been waiting, waiting, waiting to start the first grade so he too can play the piano.

He was very excited during his first lesson. The first thing he did was fall off the bench. His teacher instructed him that he would need to start 'buckling his seat belt,' which he found very funny.

Some kids pick up instruments pretty easily. As I watch him, I think this is going to come natural for him, partly because he has an older sister looking over his shoulder tutoring him.

The other interesting piece is watching the renewal of interest that has been sparked in Jaelin. She can't wait to practice, also.

I wonder how long all of this will last...

ON BEING YOURSELF

2011-08-10T15:33:00.001-05:00

Yesterday while I was grabbing a bite to eat at Panera, I sat next to a mom who was tutoring her son. Except in this case, she was scolding him.

The boy sheepishly talked and cried to her. She wouldn't budge and lectured him for about 15 minutes.

I glanced over to see what they were studying. Perhaps it was algebra or geometry. Nope. The page opened in his textbook was entitled On Being Yourself.

This made me think of the book, Tigermom.

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RULES RULES RULES

2011-08-10T15:24:00.001-05:00

My friend Nat was visiting from Ohio last week. He complained to me about the over abundant rules Maryland seems to have.

1. No texting and driving
2. No handheld phones while driving
3. Headlights are required in certain areas.

I laughed at his remarks because another friend recently told me that she could never move here because her husbands believes in his "personal freedoms."

Today while was walking to a meeting in downtown Silver Spring and thought about all of out rules. This picture is for you Nat.

I MISS YOU

2011-08-07T14:05:00.002-05:00

This was the last omelet I had. It was back in March, in Simi Valley, California. I don't think I will stop eating eggs for a lifetime, but I thought I should for a while.

Actually, the idea of eating eggs now sickens me...

at least for now.

CEILING FAN WOES

2011-08-07T12:58:00.001-05:00

The motor is bad. The good news is that Costco said I can return it, even after 2 years. I took this picture hoping you'd believe I am the one one working on it. But, most people know better.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY JAELIN

2011-08-06T20:46:00.003-05:00

My darling Jaelin turned eight years old today. As my kids grow older each year, it is a reminder of my own aging.

I still remember the morning she was born. It was 2:30am and after a long, stressful labor, she arrived in the world.

Ever since that early morning, in 2003, she has brought such joy into our lives.

She has been a fun filled child - who is compassionate and loving. I have learned so much by being her father. Unfortunately, she has had to be the brunt of my learning.

I love you Jaelin. I can't wait to see you continue to be the young woman you are turning into.

COUSINS REUNION

2011-08-06T20:36:00.002-05:00

When I was growing up in Ohio, I was always jealous that all of my cousins lived in the Washington DC area. We only visited twice a year, and it felt hard to connect, or really get to know my cousins the way I wanted.

I remember hearing about all of the family gatherings, picnics, and camping trips - and would feel envious.

As an adult, it seems like the only times we see each other is at family funerals - sad events.

When my eldest cousin called and said she would be in town from California and wanted to have a luncheon, I was really excited.

I was extremely nervous about having them over, without aunts and uncles, just the cousins. A migraine started an hour before everyone was supposed to come over. I was feeling sick to my stomach. My insecurities were coming out, and the little kid in me was unraveling.

After the luncheon was over, I felt completely different. It was so fun, and conversation filled. It made me realize how much more I wish we could see each other.

VIRUSES AND MORE

2011-07-07T08:33:00.002-05:00

I was wondering how my email got hacked...

BOYS NIGHT OUT

2011-06-08T17:45:00.003-05:00

Last Saturday, Eli and I went to a baseball game.

The Orioles vs. the Toronto Bluejays.

He was super excited to go on an outing.

It was guys night out, sponsored by his school.

During the course of the evening, I learned some lessons and had some first time experienced.

1. One of the batters bat slit in half as he swung. Part of the bat flew into the field, near the pitchers mount. That was pretty cool to witness.

2. The Orioles experienced a Grand Slam. I have always hard that phrase being tossed around, but never really knew what that meant. Now I know.

3. The only pizza joint is one the first level, on the other side of the stadium. Apparently, pizza is not a "baseball" food. Who knew?

4. We spent alot of money on food and snacks. Apparently, that is what baseball is about! The most enjoyable was eating peanuts - cracking the shells and dropping them on the floor, making a huge mess. That is something very demonstrative in this act.

5. Finally, hanging out with Eli was a blast. We shared some funny memories, and having out together. During the night, he said on multiple occasions, "Dad, I have having a great time with you."

ARE YOU PREPARED FOR SUCCESS

2011-06-08T17:35:00.003-05:00

On Sunday, as we were driving back home from a family outing, we stopped for Jaelin to get a haircut. I stayed in the van since Wilo was sleeping.

A few minutes after parking, a young man (pictured) arrived in front of the Dollar Store and proceeded to set up a make shift desk. He set up his furniture, put on a new shirt, and opened up a small box that had some papers, which he laid on the desk.

I was amused.

As people walked by him, he proceeded to invite them to sign up for a free drawing.

This was interesting. He had a nice smile, and was very polite.

Over the next twenty minutes, about thirty people walked by him, either ignoring him, or saying no.

He was resilient. He kept asking, and inviting.

The sun was burning, about 98 degrees.

Finally, finally, one lady stopped. She responsed, "I would be stupid not to sign up for something that is free." (I had my window cracked open to listen to his sales pitch.)

He pulled out a pen and gave her the paper to fill out her information.

She shook the pen.

She scribbed on the back of the page.

Apparently the pen was not working.

"I can't believe this," he said, bemused. It was his turn. He shook the pen. He then scribbled on the back page.

Nothing.

He searched his box looking for another pen.

Nothing.

She walked away.

He lost his sale.

Shortly thereafter, without a pen, he packed up his desk.

And left.

LIFE AS A PASTOR

2011-06-08T17:31:00.003-05:00

I am waiting for a meeting to start in thirty minutes. It's already been a long day here at the church. Meetings, reviewing bills, working on sermons for July and August, counseling, baptismal visits, hospital visits.

The schedule of a pastor is always changing. You have to do evening meetings because that is when most people can see you. You have to come into the office because there is planning and staff who work during the day.

And there are days like today, when I am ready to go home, and rest. Yes, life.

Ministry. It is a double edged sword.

Yes I got a haircut.

WORDS OF WISDOM BY ELI

2011-05-10T09:18:00.003-05:00

When I get married I'm gonna to tell my wife to live somewhere else, so I can stay home with you, in your bed.

We don't eat sugar cereal, it's for people who are lucky.

PICTURES TELL THE STORY

2011-05-02T23:40:00.010-05:00

Wilo's birthday is coming up. She really wants a new bed. "A big girl bed." In fact, she has been pretty offended that she is still in a crib. We recently took a little tour of the 'bedding' section. She is getting prepared for her new bed.

If you are an alumni of the Martin's club, every time you visit for another wedding, you get a bottle of [veggie] champagne. After spending that much money on a wedding, it is nice to have a lifetime gift!

I love these pants. Unfortunately, they are two sizes too small. I've decided that since I spent the first 40 years as a big boy, I am going to spend the second half of life as a thin boy. We'll see if that really happens.

During a recent visit to the optical aisle, Rej tried on a pair of glasses. "I'm those are my glasses!" For real, those are what I am currently. The bad thing is she looks better in them. Argh.

The cashier told me that this popcorn is about six months old. He said, people still grab a piece to try.

Last week, we spent the week at Ocean City during spring break. We took a brief visit to Assateague island. They have a great visitor and learning center. I dipped my hand in one of the tanks to hold a crab. The kids got a closer look at the crab.

Sisters are awesome. Jaelin is a fantastic big sister.

I love eggs. This is a picture of the last omlette I had, in Simi Valley, CA. I am turning (as Oprah says) Vegan-ish. I am doing my best to avoid dairy (and meat), for now.

MANGO

2011-05-02T23:27:00.002-05:00

American's seem to be stuck on bananas, and apples.

Last week, I decided to introduce some exotic fruits to the Americans in my office.

So I brought mangoes to share.

One particular member of the team accepted the gift after I explained in great detail how to peel, cut, and eat the mango.

{Later that day, I went home and cut three mangoes for the kids. The thought crossed my mind, I should create a YouTube video on how to cut a mango}

Today, one week later, I jumped into this person's vehicle, and found the same mango sitting on their coffee holder.

smh

READING AND SCREEN TIME

2011-05-02T23:23:00.004-05:00

I must admit, I sometimes worry about the amount of screen time my kids get.

iphone games and apps
wii
television
computer use

Sometimes it seems like that is all they do.

It is hard to get them motivated to play outside.

At the same time, it is easy to forget how much they enjoy reading too.

Yesterday, Jaelin wouldn't get out of the van because she was in the middle of her book. "Wait a minute," she said, trying to buy time.

Here is a picture of both the kids reading on the their.

Good stuff.

SERENITY

2011-05-02T23:21:00.002-05:00

The beach is my xanax.

SITTING COMFORTABLE

2011-05-02T23:14:00.004-05:00

If you follow me on Facebook, you'll see that every time I visit Costco, I take a picture of "my" chair

I love this chair. It is soooooo comfortable.

My imagination captures me: a) the books I can read b) the naps I can take c)the studying I can do d) the comfort I can experience

In any case, Mrs. Dixit doesn't believe this chair fits within our home decor.

Humph!

So, I try to visit it a couple times a month.

I'll be sad when Costco stops carrying them.

As you can see, Wilo has her own version she wants.

STARFISH

2011-05-02T23:05:00.005-05:00

Rej and I spent the weekend at Rehoboth Beach. I was preaching at a religious gathering.

On Sunday, before we left for home, we took a stroll on the beach.

It was a beautiful morning - in fact the nicest day of the weekend.

As we were walking along the beach, we saw a starfish laying on the sand.

It was a remarkable site, as the sun glistened on the top of the starfish.

Directly next to this sea creature, there was a large footprint, only inches away.

I wondered to myself if the person who had walked right beside the starfish - if they had even seen it - or were they oblivious to the beauty that lay beside their toes.

After staring at it, I finally picked it up and threw it back into the ocean. A second chance at life.

THE EASTER BUNNY

2011-04-15T20:29:00.000-05:00

WHO'S GOT YOUR (KIDS) BACK?

2011-04-12T16:26:00.003-05:00

Last night was a painful evening. It was filled with remorse, anger, and tempered hostility.

As I was driving Eli to his first Karate class, he was so happy.

"Dad, I can't believe this is finally happening. I've been wanting to try karate, and now we are finally doing."

This almost didn't happen, when a week ago, I was feeling stressed out by the piano lessons, summer camp activities, summer vacations, etc.

He was so excited, I couldn't wipe the smile off his face.

That was until his karate instructor arrived.

I really can't describe or give justice to the gruff personality (understated) this man exhibited. He was rude, mean, belittling, and short tempered with the kids.

Remember, this is the first night of karate for 5-6 year-olds.

I watched Eli's body language simply turn from excited to terrified.

At one point, I took him to the bathroom. His lips were quivering and eyes were watering up.

I wanted to confront the instructor.

ou are such a jerk. You never welcomed the kids or the parents. You haven't even explained how this program will work. You didn't tell us your name! You just started instructing as if these kids understand even the basics! Now I am going to kick your *&$! Don't EVER treat my child or any child like that again.

The Lord gave me restraint. I am still shocked.

Needless to say, I called the County supervisor this morning and made my grievance. She was very apologetic, but didn't seem too surprised. In fact she guessed who I was talking about, before I gave her the description of the instructor. She said she would personally take care of the situation. I hope so.

We agreed to move Eli to another class on another night.

DISSERTATION

2011-04-12T16:24:00.002-05:00

I was on the campus of Wesley Theological Seminary last week. I slipped into the library to see if my dissertation was in good condition. It was.

MY MOM

2011-04-12T16:15:00.004-05:00

I love my mom.

She just may be may biggest cheerleader and supporter.

The other week she asked if she could come with me to the University where I adjunct teach.

"I want to read some of their books in their library," she explained.

So, I dropped her off while I taught in another building.

When I returned, she was doing what she does best - reading.

This photo is not a rare image of my mom. In fact, when I think of her, she is either reading or cooking.

Both images are good.

My mom has always been a veracious reader. Perhaps it was her only way to get away.

It is interesting that while she has read thousands of books - more than I can imagine, she rarely has ever shared her thoughts about them. She has always kept the storyline, characters, to her self.

Perhaps the one thing she could have for herself - her thoughts.

WEDDINGS ARE FOR WINNERS

2011-04-12T15:56:00.005-05:00

A couple of weeks ago, my brother-in-law (Rej's brother) got married.

I had the honor of performing the wedding.

Here's some thoughts:

I introduced the couple together. While that is kind of cool, it also comes with great responsibility. I am more vested in making sure this marriage remains healthy. I am not worried about them splitting, but my interest lies in helping them remain healthy and happy.

As I look as them, I can't think of a more compatible couple. They are both quirky, a characteristics of being artists. I love how God is such a creative creator. He loves diversity.

I remember when I first got married. Life was stressful, with a new wife, new job, new state to live in, and new University to attend. While all of these factors were overwhelming - life back then was (more) carefree and fun. Does that mean life isn't fun now? Absolutely not. Just different, ten years later, and with three kids.

Photo on the right: This is one of my favorite pics of the wedding. Bub and I were waiting in a small room behind the sanctuary waiting for the music to cue so we could come out on stage. While we were waiting, he attempted to peek under the door to see what was going on.

PRAYER

2011-03-24T09:55:00.002-05:00

Last week, I attended the Keough Lectures at Washington Adventist University.

The opening prayer was given by Geoff Crowley, my former intern. Geoff is an academic in the making. He is thoughtful, and has great insight.

His prayer was a marvelous conversation between earthly human and a Universal God. I asked him for a copy:

"Father who is the ground of our existence.
Son, who is our savior and redeemer.
Spirit, who binds all of us together and to you, God,
we are gathered this evening in a spirit of praise and unity,
mindful of how you have loved us, forgiven us, and saved us.

Tonight we gather and experience the beginning of the Sabbath together
and we pray that you would create in us a new rhythm of life,
and that by your ever-restful grace, that you would allow us to enter your Sabbath rest
as your Sabbath rest enters into us.

Tonight we are gathered to explore your Scriptures in a deeper way.
I pray that you would strengthen us in this endeavor
and that what they teach us leads us to lives of service and love in this,
the beginning of your kingdom.
In the words of the prophet, may your Word not return void.

So tonight, God, we gather, we worship, we learn, and we pray.
Attune us now to your all-pervasive presence,
we pray in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, Amen."

ROUGH DRAFT

2011-03-08T16:56:00.003-05:00

I know it looks like a real book, but this is really a prototype.

Sometimes publishers will send you a blueline proof for editing.

Within the next few months, my book, Living With Hope (co-edited with Dave Gemmell) will be available for purchase.

This book is an introduction to the basic principles of the Christian Faith. It is very user friendly, filled with stories, analogies, and homework.

It was written in particular for new Christians, and small group bible studies.

I am finishing up on some last minute edits and adding to the resource list.

COUSINS

2011-03-08T16:30:00.002-05:00

This is my youngest cousin, Arun. We are closest in age, compared to all of the other cousins.

We are the most similar. We have the most in common.

He is mad at me - for never calling him.

"After you got married, you stopped calling."

It's true.

I texted him today, asking to hang.

I wonder if he'll answer.

Photo taken by my 6 year old son. Taken at Auntie Grace's memorial service.

SPYING

2011-03-08T16:22:00.002-05:00

This is my daughter.

I was spying on her at her preschool.

Do you see her smiling?

That pretty much explains her personality.

She is a wonderfully, fun filled, cheerful kid.

I love her.

...

I am 37 years old.

I feel too old to have the energy to have a 2 year old.

Sometimes I wish she were older.

Sometimes I wish she was in school - full time.

Sometimes I wish she was in child care

...

Why? Because I am selfish
Because I want to move on with some other personal ambitions.
Because I am tired of waiting

Because I am

Selfish

HOSPTIAL VISIT

2011-03-08T16:15:00.003-05:00

Yesterday after making a hospital visit, I dropped by the chapel.

I usually stop by the chapel of the hospital I am at to pray, and take a moment with God.

It also reminds me of the time I was in Tennessee, several years ago, thinking about burying my dad. I found the hospital chapel there, and wept.

I find these rooms comforting.

Yesterday, as I stood by the front, I gazed at this stain glass picture.

It was serene.

It felt God.

HANGING WITH THE GURU

2011-03-08T16:08:00.003-05:00

Last week, I shared drinks with Ray Dabrowski. Ray is the former director of communications of the Seventh-day Adventist Church. For almost two decades, he was responsible for the global image, media relations, and reputation management for denomination.

So when he showed up with my book in his hand, I was a little nervous.

Everytime we get together, I walk away feeling like I have just earned a Master's degree in communication. Ray has one of the rare abilities to pontificate about the latest topic, and be right the mark.

So I listened to his critique (not all of it was bad, thank God) of my book, and took notes for the next one I write.

Cick here to visit his site.

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL

2011-02-16T14:12:00.002-05:00

Last night during a class break, I went up to the third floor. The class I teach is in the basement, so I took five minutes to take lap around. When it was time to return, I took a different elevator. This Post It note was sitting above the button.

It is a hand written note that says:

All the BEAUTY You need is Already inside you!
operationbeautiful.com

I put it in my pocket.

This morning I looked up the website, and found it very interesting.

For someone who is interested in how to messages get transported, this was an interesting way.

Great message. One post-it note at a time.

I like it.

THY KINGDOM COME

2011-02-14T16:19:00.002-05:00

I've spent the better part of my afternoon working on my sermon series for March. I've been a pastor at New Hope for seven years, however this is my first series, believe it or not. I am excited about it.

The series is called, "Thy Kingdom Come," about living God's kingdom here on earth - now.

I wrote about the series more extensively at rajkumardixit.com. You can click here to read that particular post.

In any case, please pray for me. I am planning to make a call to follow Jesus each week.

WILO AND JESUS

2011-01-30T14:18:00.003-05:00

Wilo: That's Jesus

Me: Do you love Jesus?

Wilo: Yes. He's angry.

Me: He's angry?

Wilo: Yes. (stern face)

Me: Who's who angry at?

Wilo: The church.

Me: (speechless)

WHY I REMAIN POOR

2011-01-05T15:54:00.002-05:00

Last week I ate at Founding Farmers, an upscale restaurant in Washington DC. Luckily I had a reservation, and a gift card to use.

I ordered a Diet Coke, as I usually do. "Keep em' coming, I told the waitress."

"No problem," she said, "just to let you know, they are sold in bottles, not refills."

"Oh, um, never mind. Don't keep em' coming, unless they are on the house," I hinted.

She smiled, "In that case, you better enjoy your one bottle."

When my Diet Coke arrived, it showed up in an 8oz bottle. In case you don't know what 8oz. is, it is VERY small.

The total cost of my 8oz. Diet soft drink. $3.

I drank it verrrrrrry slow.

I began thinking, this is why I will never be rich. Because I waste money on $3 soft drinks.

FIGHTING WITH A FIVE YEAR OLD

2011-01-05T15:45:00.005-05:00

Last night my son was mad at me. I wouldn't let him play on my cell phone. Then I wouldn't let him play on my computer.

"You silly slipper!" He yelled at me.

I could hardly keep from laughing.

"Go upstairs and take a break." I ordered. I has happy that "silly slipper" was the only bad adjective he had in his arsenal.

I few minutes later, he came back downstairs, with a picture of him and I. This was a photo we took together at a Redskins game.

He said,"Dad, do you like this picture?" He didn't give me time to answer. "If you don't stop acting rude I am going to rip this picture up," he threatened. He was crying out of anger.

It dawned on me, that he loved that picture, just as much as I did. He has a small bulletin board hanging above his bed, with small photos and mementos, along with this particular photo. I gave him a hug and kissed him.

We made up. Click here to view the picture and post I wrote about in 2009.

PUERTO RICO

2010-12-02T21:32:00.011-05:00

THE NOTE

2010-11-13T23:22:00.003-05:00

Today after getting home from church, my daughter greeted me and said, "I have a early birthday card for you." She hand me a homemade paper note. Here is what it said:

Dear dad Happy Birthday! These are some things that make you so special, you are funny, cozy, gentle, helpful, caring, kind and you are a wonderful pastor to me. That is amazing because that is 7 things. You are a lucky duck. Happy Birthday.

love Jaelin Dixit

to Dad

After that, I don't need anything for my birthday. I am filled with love.

I MAKE IT A HABIT NOT TO...

2010-10-17T12:11:00.004-05:00

In the last week, I have been asked numerous times how I get so much done. "Where in the world do you get that time?"

Sometimes it is asked as if it is a mystery. Other times it is asked with contempt. Here is my answer:

I don't watch mindless television. Most people would say the same thing. But, the truth is, they do. The average television is on 8 1/2 hours a day.

Many people that I know, curl up on the couch, and begin watching Access Hollywood, and all of the feature TV shows from eight till midnight.

My habit is not to do that. I intentionally record the shows I am interested in watching, instead of surfing and sitting. Most of the shows I record are watched on Saturday evening.

Now, for most people, they have their evenings to themselves. As a pastor, I have meetings, committees, and counseling that takes place. Therefore, I am not at home with that expendable time.

However, when I do watch TV on a weekend, my rule is to always duel task. I will write, edit, or work on a project, at the same time.

Last night, I was watching a recorded show of Oprah. She said, "I make it a habit not to watch television..." It hit me, this is why Oprah is so successful, and able to get so much accomplished.

A SABBATH POEM

2010-08-13T09:25:00.001-05:00

I JUST LAUGH
~ by Kabir (c. 1440-1518)

If I told you the truth about God,
you might think I was an idiot.

If I lied to you about the Beautiful One
you might parade me through the streets shouting,“This guy is a genius!”

This world has its pants on backwards.
Most carry their values and knowledge in a jug that has a big hole in it.

Thus having a clear grasp of the situation
if I am asked anything these days

I just laugh!

(from the Love Poems from God: Twelve Sacred Voices
from the East and West, translation Daniel Ladinsky
- Penguin Compass, 2002, on this website)

thank you Samir for leading me to this.

GET READY FOR A BIG BIG CRY

2010-08-12T19:08:00.000-05:00

WHAT'S NEXT?

2010-08-11T19:56:00.004-05:00

This is it. It may take a while. So going. But I intend to work hard for this.

Just wait.

It is on my dream board.

It shall come.

Slowly.

I envision you.

You are mine.

...

Click here to view the details.

JOSHUA BENNETT PERFORMS AT THE WHITE HOUSE

2010-08-11T19:50:00.001-05:00

Thanks Lauri for leading me to this piece.

WHAT KIND OF PEOPLE SHOULD WE BE?

2010-07-29T09:28:00.004-05:00

This morning I was reading selective passages from the New Testament. What I mean by selective passages are those that I underlined in past readings.

I was pondering (yes, pastors ponder) some thoughts that are swirling in my mind as I contemplate a sermon I am working on based on 1 John 2.

So as I was scanning for my underlined notations, here is what I read in 2 Peter 3:11

"...what kind of people ought you to be?"

That is a good question, I thought to myself. What kind of people should we be. My sermon is about living the life like Jesus did. So, this seemed to be a good tie in.

I read on...

You ought to live holy an godly lives as you look forward to the day of God and speed its coming...But in keeping with his promise we are looking forward to a new heaven and a new earth, the home of righteousness."

This seemed to hit me hard. My life should be consumed with the soon coming of Jesus.

I hit me, because I have had alot of other things on my mind as of late - and Jesus' second coming hasn't been on the top of the list.

wow. ugh. hump... sadness. embarrassment. shame.

Last night around 11pm, Rej and I spent about an hour surfing a realestate site, looking for new homes in a particular community we are hoping to move into one day soon.

We were consumed with the thought of moving. The right school system, enough bed rooms, updated kitchen, bigger back yard...

Why wasn't I consumed with God's work, or speeding his second coming?

My eyes were drawn at first to these words... "what kind of people ought you to be?"

But when you read the sentence in context, here is how is reads: Since everything will be destroyed in this way, what kind of people ought you to be?"

Then I flashed forward to 1 John 2:15 Do not love the world or anything in the world.

So what kind of person must I be?

16 YEAR PLAN

2010-07-27T13:49:00.004-05:00

This past weekend, Rej and I visited our favorite Bed and Breakfast in Hershey, Pennsylvania. My church had generously given us a free night stay during Pastor Appreciation month. We were and still are deeply grateful.

It was nice to be alone in the car during our drive, and lay together in a hammock. What people often don't realize about me is that while I am a high sanguine, I also like to have my times of silence. So, reading a book for 3 years while I laid next to Rej was a very pleasant experience.

Because Rej and I are both task oriented individuals, we can't help but talk about our future plans. A few years ago, when she turned 30, a group of our friends met for dinner, and went around the table sharing their five year plans. I still remember the three things I said I wanted to accomplish.

I have.

So recently, I've been feeling a terrible void, wondering what next is for me. As we were talking through some of our couple and family goals, Rej suggested I take the 16 year plan. What are some of the things we want to do in the next 16 years.

Why 16?

That is when the kids will all be in or ready for college. So, what are the things we want to be ready to do? Based on that list, we need to start putting things in place so we will be ready in 16 years.

I am not talking about the small stuff.

What job do I want and need to prepare for in 16 years.
Where exactly do we want to live. How do we get ready for that?
What kind of lifestyle do we see ourselves in?

So we worked out the details. I feel at peace. I feel like I have something to work towards.

16 years. That is doable.

This barn view was from our private patio, from the 'Secret Room.'
The second picture of the arched column is from a beautiful barn we visited in PA.

The B&B we stayed at is called the Annville Inn. Ask for Rosalee the Innkeeper.

WHO IS THIS OLD MAN

2010-07-20T12:47:00.003-05:00

My entire life has been centered around being a young person.

Everyone looked at me as a young person.

I thought of myself as a young person.

No anymore.

I think of myself as a grown adult.

Not a young adult.

I think of myself as a man approaching 40.

Not a little brother.

My thoughts are conservative.

Not careless.

My actions are deliberate.

Not carefree.

My life is planned.

Not spontaneous.

When did this happen?

Why am I okay with this?

SHAMELESS PLUG

2010-07-20T12:45:00.003-05:00

MY MOM

2010-07-20T12:42:00.002-05:00

Last week I took my mom to the urgent care. It was around 10:30pm.

They handed her a computer tablet to fill her the registration information.

Gone are the days of paper, huh?

I was curious to see if she would hand me the tablet to fill for her, or if she would figure it out on her own.

Needless to say, my mom is pretty self-sufficient. She got started and began filling it out.

I hope I am that tech savvy when I am 73 years old.

SOFTBALL FEVER

2010-07-06T13:33:00.001-05:00

THINKING ABOUT RACE

2010-06-18T12:08:00.004-05:00

I surprised my daughter today at school and had lunch with her. I brought her a chocolate cookie from Panera Bread. While we were talking she said,

"I love Chocolate cookies, probably because I am brown...
I think white people like Vanilla instead."

As I have thought about that statement more and more, I think she is on to something.

They may also like strawberry too.

Books!

2010-06-09T10:10:00.001-05:00

I love this picture. My kids love to read, and Eli has started reading on his own. Rej saved Jaelin's sightwords from Kindergarten and has been teaching them to Eli.

ABC wITH WILO

2010-06-04T17:56:00.001-05:00

FIELD TRIP TO THE NATIONAL ZOO

2010-05-29T18:52:00.005-05:00

Yesterday I spent the day going to the National Zoo with Jaelin.

I was a chaperon.

Kind of scary, me being in charge of a group of first graders. I was NOT thrilled about the field trip at first for a few reasons. 1. The National Zoo is all uphill. 2. I've never been to the zoo when it wasn't scorching hot. 3. I would be stuck with a bunch of first graders.

The trip actually wasn't too bad. I had fun hanging with my eldest child. I can't describe how proud she was that her dad was coming along on the trip. She couldn't wait to sit on the bus with me, and show me off to her friends.

I felt special.

So, in the end, it was a fun trip. We saw a baby bear, and the very cool Giant Panda.

Maybe I'll agree to do another trip in the future.

RIP GARY

2010-05-28T19:44:00.000-05:00

In Search of Water - Haiti

2010-05-14T10:08:00.001-05:00

Untitled from New Hope Adventist on Vimeo.

testing

2010-04-20T14:52:00.001-05:00

Impromptu Moments at Bottega Louie from Traveling Muse on Vimeo.

GOOD FRIDAY

2010-04-02T10:35:00.001-05:00

JONAS BROTHERS AND EASTER

2010-04-02T10:06:00.004-05:00

There is an interesting article at USA Today that discusses the dwindling significance of Easter. For most hardcore Christians, this is the superbowl of our religion. This weekend is where every weekend service, devotion, prayer time meets - on the weekend that we celebrate the death and resurrection of Jesus.

Or is it?

The article suggests that Christians are waning in their zeal to invite their unchurched friends to an Easter service.

David Kinnaman, president of Barna, told Baptist Press:

... those who celebrate Easter because of the resurrection of Christ are not particularly likely to invite non-churched friends to worship, suggesting that their personal beliefs about Jesus have not yet translated into a sense of urgency for having spiritual conversations with their acquaintances.

In fact, less than one-third (31%) said they would invite a friend to church on Easter weekend. And only and only 2% called this day "the most important holiday of their faith."

The article speaks to the fact the Rick Warren's church, Saddleback Community Church in Southern California will be hosting the Jonas Brothers in concert as part of their Easter weekend celebration at the Angels stadium. As you can imagine, it hasn't been hard to fill the venue. All weekend services are completely sold out.

Is that what it takes now to get our established members to bring their friends to experience worship and listen to an invitational message about Jesus?

When we talk about rebranding our faith, we may need to start from the inside before we work on the outside...

Click here to read the full article

EASTER EGG HUNT - YOU ARE INVITED

2010-03-28T19:37:00.002-05:00

You are invited to an Easter Egg Hunt on Sunday directly after the 11am worship service. For details visit lookingforachurch.org

MY LIFE THROUGH MY CAMERA PHONE

2010-03-21T23:58:00.016-05:00

"Sock Puppet" original art by Jaelin using the DoddleBuddy app for the iPhone

"I wish I had a pet dog" original art by Jaelin using the DoddleBuddy app for the iPhone

Daddy and Wilo time at the park. Can't wait for next year when Eli and Jaelin are both in school to have some more alone time with her.

Biker Babe.

Visiting my pastoral intern, Geoff in his dorm room. After living in a 2000 sq ft home, I forgot how cramped it is to live in a dorm room with a room mate. Geoff has been a terrific intern and I am sad to lose him at the end of April.

This is Geoff's "ladder" to get into the top bunk. Life is so hard for college students

While I was visiting Morrison Hall I decided to take a picture of the pay phone I used to call Rej from 16 years ago. Since she lived in Baltimore it cost more than a quarter to call her. Also, her mom kept answering asking who I was. So I stopped calling, and things fizzled - for another 5 or so years.

The story of my life: Attending meetings. Taken at the Sharing Our Strength International meeting led by Dave Wooster. It is amazing how much we can zip through an agenda with a terrific chairperson.

Raised garden kit from Costco. There is no way I am going to pay $299 for this, but it gave me the inspiration on how to make one. Rej wants to plant a larger vegetable garden this summer and start eating fresh veggies from the back yard. I am going to impress her by making a raised garden like she has been asking.

How many Mac geniuses does it take to solve my problems? Good guys: Kane, Andy, and John.

Choir Practice at New Hope. Come to church on Easter and you'll be able to hear them.

My view from the ER.

My yum yum before Sabbath School began

More yum yums from Haiti. I wish I could have taken these cuties home.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY REJ

2010-03-21T23:43:00.009-05:00

On Saturday, Rej and I took the day off in Washington DC to celebrate her birthday. It was a fun day filled with walking, great meals, and of course, crazy people in the district.

The older this woman gets the hotter she becomes. Ouch!

For a brief second I thought about scaling the fence to visit the President. But didn't thin it would be a good idea to get shot on my wife's bday.

Luckily, I didn't have to visit the White House since President Obama drove by with his motorcade to the Capital. He was about to give a speech on the healthcare bill.

Angry demonstrators.

More angry demonstrators.

Hey Republicans: if you are so concerned about your country, how about cleaning up after yourselves!

Socializing with the grim reaper.

We spent some time in a couple bookstores. I took a few photos of books I want to read next.

REJ BIRTHDAY BRUNCH

2010-03-21T23:32:00.005-05:00

SIX DEGREES OF FACEBOOK

2010-03-21T22:14:00.003-05:00

On Friday night I struck up a conversation with a few young ladies sitting behind me at the Toby Mac concert. They asked me to take their photo. Since I had their camera in my hand I took a self portrait first, and told them to post the pic on their facebook page. Who would have ever thought my pic would get tagged and I would get recognized by a mutual friend. Small world! Here is the conversation that took place on facebook.

Picture description: Random Creepy Indian guy who wanted me to put him in my Fb pics as "Creepy indian Guy" lol

Odessa Davis
Hey that's my pastor!
Yesterday at 7:48pm · Report

Yayra Kumah
lol Really? stop playing
Yesterday at 9:52pm · Report

Anene Onyeabo
lol!!!!!!!!
Yesterday at 10:56pm · Report

Odessa Davis
Yes Pastor Kumar
13 hours ago · Report

Odessa Davis
Talk about 6 degrees of separation
about an hour ago · Report

TRIP TO HAITI

2010-03-02T15:57:00.002-05:00

Tomorrow morning a group of 9 from New Hope will be heading to Haiti. This group hopes to accomplish the following: well driving at Eden Garden Orphanage, testing the water supply at Canaan Orphanage, medical clinic, creating medical records for each child at Eden Garden, assessment and evaluation for future trips, and community development with the local leaders. Please pray for the team as they travel. To stay up to date, visit my blog, or the SoS blog at www.newhopesoshaiti.blogspot.com.

THIRD CHILD

2010-03-01T22:35:00.002-05:00

Disclaimer: I am a third child

This child, Wilo has caused so many emotions to erupt in her parents life. Here are some the expressions that have manifested in our home - since she joined us almost 2 years ago.

Ugh. Hmph. Sigh. Argh. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

We are not as young as we were when Jaelin was born, so things seem to be so much more annoying and tiring.

And yet, there is something about this child that I simply love. She is so juicy and wonderful.

I keep telling myself, she is going to bring pure joy into our lives when we are old.

CAMERA PHONE PICS

2010-03-01T22:27:00.005-05:00

While Eli is at soccer practice, Jaelin and I take crazy photos with my camera phone. It is alot of fun cheering for my son from the bleachers, while Jaelin and I get some alone time together.

I recently found myself in a seethy club. I was out of my element. It seemed like there was a huge label pasted to my forehead that screamed, FATHER OF THREE. I survived. Although I wished I had a gallon of purell hand sanitizer to bathe with.

I am not sure who is enjoying the Wii more, my father-in-law or the kids. Usually, when I get home on Wednesday evenings, I have to ask, "Where is dad?" The kids response, "downstairs playing the Wii."

Rej took this picture with her camera phone, and texted me the pic. Wilo enjoyed her haircut, so long as there was a lollypop in her mouth.

BRANDED FAITH THE BOOK

2010-03-01T21:55:00.002-05:00

Last week, I submitted my book manuscript to the publisher, Wipf and Stock.

It is done.

I feel like a huge burden has been taken off after all of these years working on it.

This picture is the author photo that will be included in the book. (photo credit, Ancient City Photography)

The book, Branded Faith should be out in a few months.

WHAT TO DO ABOUT MIKE

2010-02-26T14:06:00.002-05:00

I finally noticed Mike this summer, as I was preparing for a sermon on Amos. He's always been there.

He stands with his dog by the exit of the Target shopping center in Silver Spring. Yes, right by the Adventist Book Center, where undoubtedly thousands of Christians pass by.

During that summer day, when I noticed him, I had someone in my car with me. Their comment was, "That guy can't really be homeless, if he has a dog. How can he care that dog?"

I have thought about Mike often. How can I help him?

His sign says,

Need money.
homeless, veteran,
please help.

Today, I drove past Mike. His dog wasn't with him.

I made a uturn. Was he standing out in the freezing cold, and strong wind without gloves?

I had a pair of gloves I could give him.

I returned. He was wearing gloves.

I made another uturn.

I can't leave without finding out what happened to his dog.

Drove past him again.

I didn't know what to say.

A third time, I made a uturn.

This time I parked.

I walked down the road to greet him by the stop sign.

Where's your dog?

She's in a safe warm place.

What's going on? How can I help?

He told me his story.

Everybody has a story.

I told him about Winterhaven, the homeless ministry my church is a part of.

Nobody will keep me, because I have a dog.

I will not let her go. She's all I have. She's what keeps me going.

I handed him some cash. He was lucky, because I never have cash on me.

"Mike, I'll check back with you again," I told him.

ELECTRA THE CAT

2010-02-25T22:59:00.002-05:00

I have been trying to convince Rej to get a cat. Since we don't have the time, money or experience in having a dog, I thought perhaps at cat.

I found this cat, "Electra" online at our local humane society website.

The only problem is that the description says:

She is outgoing and will meow at you cutely to try and get your attention. She is very friendly and doesn’t like being alone. She would love to have another kitty around to play with.

This is code for "I will get bored easily and ruin your furniture."

This is the perfect looking cat that I want.

But I can't convince Mrs. Dixit to get an active cat.

She wants a sleepy, boring cat that won't cause problems...

MY BOSS

2010-02-17T14:03:00.002-05:00

This is my boss, Pastor David Newman. He is 66 years old.

He has less gray hair.

More hair.

Better shape.

Wiser

More read.

More computer savvy.

To top it off, he is pictured here at my desk, using my phone, doing something I couldn't figure out how to do on my own.

Good guy.

Good boss.

Compassionate, and forgiving.

Lunch at Mongolian

2010-02-16T11:49:00.005-05:00

You are supposed to compile your ingredients, and then give it to the chef to cook it all together. Note: You are allowed to make two bowls.

...

Rej and I were out to lunch - alone. A wonderful gift to have some adult time together.

Unfortunately, she didnt' seem to be listening to me. Her eyes were zoned, and she had a weird grin.

I followed her eyes.

A lady was making her bowl. Usually, stopping at the rim of the bowl is good enough.

Maybe she was hungry.

Maybe she hadn't eaten in days.

Maybe she doesn't know about portion control.

Maybe she is fat.

Maybe she isn't embarrassed.

I asked the lady if I could take a picture of her bowl.

She didn't have a problem with me taking a photo.

TURN OFF THE LIGHTS!

2010-02-15T09:47:00.004-05:00

Before I walked downstairs, I took a quick detour to turn of lights.

6 lights to turn off.

What is wrong with these people? Should I start charging each kids for electricity?

Do you think money grows on trees?

Am I turning into my parents?

GIRLS NIGHT

2010-02-15T09:26:00.002-05:00

The other night (Valentine's eve) Rej and I watched Pretty Woman together. I was hoping she would think I was doing it for her.

Watching a chick flick would score points.

But she knows me too well. I loved watching the movie just as much as she did.

I was really tired, and was about to go to sleep early. But once I saw what she was watching, I plopped down and watched too.

Full disclosure, I've seen the movie over 20 times.

But there was something about this time around. I realized what a terrific performance Julia Roberts gave. I've never been a fan of hers, but she was brilliant in this movie. In fact, I don't think she has ever 'acted' so well or as convincingly as this one.

Most of the films I watch are independent flicks, that Rej usually hates. So it was nice to enjoy one together, even if it was a girlie one.

IN SEARCH OF YOU

2010-02-12T22:30:00.002-05:00

I just got home.

I was in search of a friend who is depressed.

Went to their home. Knocked, and knocked.

Went to their work.

Called and texted.

I was in search of you.

Know that someone cares.

OLYMPICS: BA HUM BUG

2010-02-12T22:24:00.003-05:00

Why do I always feel the winter Olympics is a joke. It can't even be compared to the athleticism of the summer Olympics.

The only good thing is that it is being held in Canada.

Canada needs this triumph. It is good for her self-esteem.

Some facts:

Canada is the second largest country in the world
There are more people living in California than Canada
90% of Canadians live close to the USA

BORN INTO BROTHELS

2010-02-10T23:22:00.004-05:00

Earlier tonight I watched the documentary Born Into Brothels. This is a heart breaking story of children from Calcutta, India (where my dad is from) who live in homes of prostitutes - their mother.

Photographer Zana Briski spent two years working with these children, teaching them to take pictures and giving them the freedom and artistry to tell their story through their camera lens.

The story line is heartbreaking, as Briski attempts to convince these children and their parents to allow them to attend boarding school. The education they received would give them a better life and future.

Do you think their parents agreed?

What was most shocking to me was the abuse. The high level of physical and verbal abuse these kids endured by their mothers. I was shocked that a mother would speak to their children with such hatred and disdain.

A movie worth watching.

Check out freetobekids.org

SNOWMAGEDDEN

2010-02-10T23:02:00.013-05:00

Proof that my lovely wife helped with the snow removal. This is the first time she has ever helped shovel the snow, and I am so grateful. Even with her help, it took us three days to clean out our driveway, vehicles, and sidewalks. That was just for blizzard 1. We haven't gone out yet, due to the 40 mile wind gusts and blizzard snow conditions.

Wilo took a great interest in the white stuff. She was on a mission to get somewhere. I am not sure where, but I just followed her up and down the street.

What can I say, even parents need some time to relax and be pulled around. This sled rocks. It was a worthwhile expenditure. It was the last one at Dicks. I called last week and put it on hold.

The calvary finally came a few days ago. It was so cool. Three trucks all at once.

The massive snow hill. It requires careful walking and balance to get to this particular hill. Going down the hill is fun, but climbing up the hill is a killer for the kids.

Grandma Lynne came over one day during the storm and made homemade cinnabuns. Yummy! I realized how much work to takes to make them. Wilo looked longingly at the dough, and finally got to taste the yum yums.

My mom has been entertaining the kids during the storm. Egg salad sandwiches! I made her stay with us, against her will. I was worried that if she lost power, I wouldn't be able to get to her. It has worked out for me. Fish curry. Dosai and potato, upama- the list continues.

My niece and nephew are staying with us during the storm, since their dad just got out of surgery. 5 kids in our home! C R A Z Y. It has been alot of fun.

2010-01-20T18:25:00.001-05:00

AN OPEN LETTER TO MY FACEBOOK/BLOG READERS

2010-01-13T22:01:00.006-05:00

Click here to donate

As many of you know, my church (New Hope Adventist Church) supports an orphanage in Haiti called Eden Garden. This morning, I was supposed to be on a flight to Port-Au-Prince, Haiti, with 30 other volunteers. Our mission was to conduct a medical clinic, well drilling project, and vacation bible school. Due to the earthquake, we did cancel our trip.

Yesterday, before the earthquake, the orphanage director, Charles, gave his assistant Jeane Claude $3000 cash to go into Port Au Prince to buy the necessary project supplies for our church group. Jeane Claude has been missing since then.

Our well drilling team was supposed to meet another team from the HANDS TOGETHER organization, to train them and dig wells for the orphanage and the surrounding community. The drilling equipment is already at the orphanage, and we would like to send a team to Haiti in the next three weeks to begin drilling wells.

I am appealing to you to help me raise funds towards the Haiti mission initiatives of New Hope Church. I was planning on taking $200 on this particular trip; which I am now donating to the project. I am asking you, my Facebook and blog friends, to match my donation.

In the best of times, Haitians live on less than $2.00 a day. You have seen what this catastrophe has done to an already impoverished country. They need our help. To make a donation, you can visit www.newhopesoshaiti.blogspot.com and click on the donate button. If you are a New Hope member, you can donate directly from the church website by clicking on online giving.

One hundred percent of your contribution will be used to support the local orphanage and drilling project. I have 909 friends. I am hoping a tithe of my friends (10% of you) will make a contribution by Friday. If you contact me through Facebook or email, I will keep a tally of many people participated, and how much was donated.

Feel free to contact me if you have any questions at kumardixit [at] yahoo [dot] com.

Thanks for taking the time to read my appeal.

BOOK OF NEGROES

2009-11-30T17:43:00.003-05:00

During Thanksgiving break, my sister handed me this book and said I must read it. So I did. I knew a little about it since she had blogged about it last month.

The Book of Negroes is about a 11 year old girl who was kidnapped by slave traders in Africa during the 1700's. It is a historical novel that tells the story from a first person narrative. As the reader, you are taken on the life journey of "Aminata" the young girl and all of exploits, good and mostly bad.

While the book is a novel - fictional, the author, Lawrence Hill's historical details are so accurate you feel like you are reading an accurate account of the story.

I would highly recommend the book.

The American title for this book is called Someone Knows My Name